How To Be Human 
by Ruby Wax
Published by Penguin Books

We’ve done a lot of reading here in the Happy House this winter and one book which has truly enhanced our bookshelves is this.

It sounds like the set up for a joke: what do you get when you combine a stand-up comedian, a neuroscientist and a monk?  Well, when the comedian is Ruby Wax, who set aside a career in laughter to take a masters degree in mindfulness therapy and campaigning for better mental health provision, the results are funny, insightful and inspiring. 

We’ve learned a lot about the power mindfulness has to bring happiness and calm through the thoughts and practical exercises in this brilliant book. The theory, the science and the spiritual dimension of how we can set ourselves free of stress are explained here with depth but also with humour. Ruby covers evolution, thought, emotion, addiction, relationships and compassion. A great read.

​Ian Scott Massie March 2022

An Introduction to the Spring Equinox


Spring Equinox, also known as the Vernal Equinox or Ostara, is calendared falling March 21st-22nd each year.  It signals the great reawakening of the Earth and the birthing of new life.  At Imbolc the sap starts to rise and there is a quickening and swelling and a promise of life is visible in nature.  At Ostara growth and life explodes into action.

The word Equinox means equal night and is the moment of night and day in perfect balance.  Vernal means of Spring and so the Vernal Equinox marks the first day of Spring.  Ostara is the pagan name for this Equinox and is part of the yearly cycle of festivals observed as part of the Wheel of the Year.  The Wheel of the Year is anchored around four main annual, cross quarter point, solar events, Spring and Autumn Equinox and Summer and Winter Solstice.  This cross symbology event in this wheel has been templated onto the hot cross bun, eaten at this time of year.

At Spring Equinox, the equator of the Earth is directly overhead at noon and moves through the centre of the disc of the visible sun.   This is known as the First Point of Aries.  A new astrological year begins as the Sun moves into the first zodiac sign, Aries.  There is a huge shift in energy into the masculine, the Sun heats, instigates and motivates us into trailblazing action, autonomy and the light half of the year, the seasons of Spring and Summer.

Symbolism in the Spring Equinox

Gods/Goddesses
The triple Goddess returns as the Maiden from her winter Crone slumber in the underworld belly egg of the great Mother Goddess Gaia (the earth) at the Spring Equinox.  The primary maiden goddess associated with this Equinox is Ostara, also known as Oestre, Eostre or Eastr.  She is the Germanic Lunar Goddess of the Dawn and Spring, who is often depicted as part hare or holding a hare, the power animal of regenerative and cyclical shapeshifting which moves through birth and death, like the moon, and so is a totem of eternal life.  She can also be seen as holding a willow basket of eggs, symbolising the potentiality, nourishment, birth and the time when animal’s sexual cycles are most fertile and we can make connections with estrogen the ovulation stimulating hormone.  Pagans celebrate the sacred marriage of the Sun God and the maiden Goddess who conceives the Divine Child at this festival which she will birth as the Great Mother at Winter Solstice.  
It is possible to see the appropriation of this festival by Christianity Easter, the death and resurrection, rebirth, of Christ, the Light.  Easter occurs on the first Sunday after the first full moon after Spring Equinox.  The hare has become the Easter bunny in modern day celebrations.  

Colours

Colours of this festival are pink, green and yellow and so connecting with crystals which carry the frequency of this is useful.  Rose quartz especially.

Plants
TREE: BIRCH

Purity – Renewal – Hope

Elegant Birch, comes into leaf in early Spring, a herald of the vernal equinox and of Ostara/Easter. Appositely, Birch twigs were used to make besom brooms. A new broom sweeps clean, as the saying goes, and this is particularly significant for the new life, fertility and fresh beginnings that is the promise of Ostara. 

The graceful character of Birch, also called the Lady of the Woods, belies its hardiness. In fact, it is known as a pioneer tree because of its capacity to thrive in the most inhospitable of places; often the first tree to return to a woodland after some natural disaster has befallen. 

This elegant, native tree has become rooted in the fabric and history of our islands. For instance, Beating the Bounds was an ancient custom, still practised in some parts of Britain, where bundles of birch or willow twigs were used to tap on landmarks along the boundary of the Parish, formally establishing and preserving the boundaries. The protective qualities of Birch were also employed in making cradles for new-borns, in the belief that the wood shielded babies from malign spirits and would thwart any attempts by the faery folk to steal the baby and replace it with a changeling. During a less enlightened part of our history, being ‘birched’ was synonymous with the widespread practice of corporal punishment (using bundles of twigs) applied to unfortunate school children, criminals and sea-farers. Happily, times have changed!

PLANT: VIOLET
Venus – Loyalty – Love
The Spring equinox is the flowering time of year, even the full moon in May is known as the Flower Moon. An entrancing, but oft overlooked wildflower appearing at this time of year is the Violet; a dainty addition to grassy banks and woodland edges. If you come across fragrant flowers, then you have found Sweet Violets Viola odorata. If scentless, then it is likely you have discovered Common Dog Violet Viola riviniana. 
In fact, a common myth surrounding Sweet Violet is that, as you inhale the fragrance, the flower steals away your sense of smell, leading to the saying ‘You can only smell violets once.’ If you should have this experience, don’t be alarmed, the effect is only temporary, due to active compounds in the plant that de-sensitize the smell receptors in your nose. 

 Violets have been popular additions to British gardens since Mediaeval times. In the symbolism of this period, they were linked with Roses and Lilies as the flowers of Paradise, and were put to many fascinating uses. For instance, a floral water made of boiled Violets came highly recommended for ‘diseases of the groin’ and a rather more delightful sounding pudding recipe called ‘Vyolette’ was made from the flower petals, milk and almonds.
 Most folk-tales associated with this charming flower are positive ones. Dreaming of Violets is particularly good news, believed to indicate you are about to come into good fortune. 
Sweet Violets, along with their deep green heart-shaped leaves, have many links with love and romance and are forever immortalised in the Valentine’s rhyme ‘Roses are red, Violets are blue’. They also crop up in the love story between Napoleon and Josephine, being the lady’s favourite flower and, on Napoleon’s death, a lock of Josephine’s hair and some pressed violets were found in a locket around his neck. 
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Rituals to do at Spring Equinox

• Renewal and cleansing rituals:

Collecting dew and waters from natural springs to wash with
Spring cleaning your home
Life audit and assessment make plans for all areas of your life
Write a prayer or poem or creative a celebratory piece of art of gratitude for the Earth

• Union rituals

Flower wreaths weaving willow and the colours of green, yellow and pink.
Planting seeds with the intention of abundance and manifestation for herbs, vegetables, flowers you can use during autumn and winter
Standing again at tree trunk to receive the rising lifeforce energy flow
Love making

• Celebrating the rebirth of the Light, Warmth and Action

Dancing, singing, painting
Hanging prayer flags or streamers in trees of your garden to harness the energy
Creating an altar themed around the colours, mythos, energies and symbols of the festival 
Egg painting

We are at the point where winter is gripping us fast and yet the first signs of spring are already around us. There are tight curled sticky buds on the chestnut trees and the snowdrops are punching their way through the icy ground. Its a time of celebration and of hope - and this year we really need to embrace hopefulness!

Kay Turner and Sarah Heagney have done some research into the history, traditions and plants associated with the Solstice. Read on and discover the hidden stories behind this special time of year ​

Midwinter's Day: The time of the Oak and Holly Kings, of the Norse God Odin, of the Mother Goddess, the Sun God and the birth of the Divine Child


Yule is the Winter Solstice and the longest night/shortest day of the year. It falls on December 21st and is a festival which predates the Christian celebration of Christmas. Legends tell us that Celtic druids would cut the mistletoe, a symbol of life and light in death and darkness from the sacred Oak trees. The Yule log was lit during Yule to conquer darkness and banish evil spirits, as during this mid-winter point darkness peaks and there is a pause as the sun stands still, rising and setting in the same place. Our ancestors would have marked this point on the horizon in their stone circles.
The Holly King who has ruled earth since Summer Solstice resumes his battle with his Oak King brother. This time the Holly King surrenders, and the Oak King wins initiating the Sun to begin its return.


The Evolution of Yule: Pre-Christian origins of the word Yule are thought to be linked to the name Jolnir, ‘the Yule one’, the long-bearded Norse god Odin, who delivered gifts with an eight-legged flying horse. This legend could have been a precursor to that of Father Christmas.
In Scandinavia people celebrated a 12-day winter festival called Jul and activities included hanging evergreen wreaths and mistletoe and carol singing.


Christianity is likely to have layered Christmas traditions over these alongside adopting the narrative of the birth of the Divine Child, the sun god. The winter solstice is the birthday of both the Sun and Son, the Child of Light by the great Mother Goddess. Christianity reconfigured this as the Madonna and Child.


Masham, home of the Happy House, is the site of an Anglo Scandinavian graveyard which lies under the Market Place (in the photo above). Being a place where Vikings and Christians mixed and intermarried this may be one of the first places where the two traditions of Yule and Christmas came together.

TREE: YEW
Taxus baccata
Eternity – Ancestors – Air & Water


The ancient and venerable Yew has magical associations with Winter and, through its toxicity, it is linked with death, but also with regeneration. It is a symbol of longevity and rebirth: when an old Yew dies, the fallen branches sprout roots and a new tree begins to grow. Yew trees frequently grow hollow at the centre, characterizing their place as guardians of the spiritual dimension and embodying the power of empty space.


Part of the Yew tree’s evergreen magic is undoubtedly its incredibly long life-span, with trees living up to 3,000 years, (they have to be over 900 years old to be officially recognised as an ‘Ancient Yew’). They are frequently to be found growing on sacred ground, beside churches, wells and springs, and are seen as an indicator of ancient places of worship, dating from Druidic and Celtic times.


During their long lives, Yew trees have become steeped in folk tales and traditions, many of which centre around burial practices and funerary rites. However, in some English counties there was also a belief that lost items could be found by taking a Yew branch to guide you as you searched. The custom was that the Yew would lead you straight to your lost belongings, with the branch turning in your hand as you reached them.


If you fancy a trip to meet a truly venerable tree, then some fine examples of Ancient Yews are;
the Crowhurst Yew in East Sussex
the Ankerwycke Yew in Surrey
St Cynog’s Church Yew near Swansea
the Fortingall Yew in Perthshire.


PLEASE NOTE: The bark, needles and berry seeds of Yew are all highly toxic, so please approach respectfully.


PLANT:IVY
Hedera helix
Love - Fidelity - Saturn    


The deep green leaves and long, trailing stems of Ivy are to be found all over the British Isles. Its tendrils will wrap around trees and climb up walls, generally binding things together. Perhaps this tendency is why it has come to represent faithfulness, often being used in hand-fasting ceremonies and to adorn bridal bouquets. In old English tradition, Ivy was also used as a ceremonial binding to tie the last sheaf of the harvest.


Another interesting tradition, traces of which can still sometimes be seen in modern life, is the once widespread belief that Ivy had the power to prevent drunkenness.


In ancient times, Ivy crowns would be worn for this purpose and Bacchus, the Greek god of wine, is often depicted as wearing such a crown. To this day, you might find Ivy leaves appearing on old inn signs or carved decoratively into goblets.

Often a misunderstood plant, Ivy does not actually damage trees, but rather leans on them for support as it grows whilst maintaining its own, separate root system.

​It flowers from September to November and is an important source of pollen for bees and insects at this rather frugal time of year. In the autumn, it puts out clusters of black berry fruits which, although poisonous to humans, provide a welcome winter food for the birds. If the Ivy in your garden spreads across the ground, rather than climbing, then you have Hedera Hibernica, the other subspecies of Ivy native to the Britain.


An ancient token of love, peace and protection (as well as hangover prevention!), this may explain why Ivy is so welcome at Yuletide, intertwined with Holly, and used around our homes as decoration.

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Gods/Goddesses: God Mabon.  Goddess Modron.
Symbols: Fruits, Apple, Cornucopia, Grain, Corn dolls

Mabon is the ‘Great Son’ and a Welsh God as well as a mythological figure, thought to be part of the King Arthur’s group.  Modron, is an Earth Goddess and Mabon’s ‘Great Mother’.  Mabon’s symbol is the Horn of Plenty, the Cornucopia.  This is a totem of union of the masculine (the phallic horn) and the feminine (the large round ending, hollowed akin to the vaginal canal) and it is often filled with fruits and vegetables to depict the abundant harvest.

Evolution of Mabon: The Autumn Equinox is the time of day and night, light and dark, masculine and feminine coming into balance again.  Mabon marks the second harvest, the fruit harvest, and ancient agricultural societies marked times of transition in light and dark with gratitude, celebration and preparation.  At Harvest moon the final sheaf was made into a corn dolly, placed above the hearth of the home, and was honored by the farmer who owned the land.  Her kernels were blessed and kept as the first seeds of the following year’s crops.  The Masculine God, Mabon, the child of life, ends his life cycle.  His death is the gateway for the Dark Goddess rule over the dark half of the year. 

Symbolism of the apple: -
A sacred symbol in many traditions, expressing life, knowledge and wholeness at Mabon, the apple represents harvest.  The apple contains within it completion and the symbol of the 5-point pentagram star, which depict the elements Earth, Air, Fire, Water, Spirit and directions East, South, West, North and Within.

Autumn Equinox rituals and ceremonies:
There are many traditional and contemporary rituals and ceremonies that are celebrated at this time. They fall into roughly 3 categories: 
Giving thanks – self, community, energies, projects
Completion
Clearing out and preparation

A few things to try at Autumn equinox:

Drink golden cider with friends.  Honour the waning sun, the apple harvest, and blessings of community.  Rest together.  Chat about what has unfolded for you since the spring.

Cut an apple width way and meditate on the image of the pentagram star and the totality of the life – death - life cycle held in the apple.

Clean out the home of clutter.  

Review your diary and life.  Which projects or relationships are complete or life giving – give thanks for them.  Which are not manifesting or in alignment or bringing you joy – assess whether you want to keep giving them energy.

Create your Mabon altar – place on your altar natural objects, corn and fruits especially.  Focus on the colours of browns, gold, reds.  Planting a bulb in a pot to bloom the following spring and placing it on your altar is a lovely way of staying connected to light, life and hope during the darker half of the year.  

Make a corn dolly with a child.  As you do this talk about the seasons and nature’s cycles.

Thanks to Kay Turner for this Autumn Equinox contribution
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